I have several people that are special to me that I hold dear in my heart. These are people that I can lean on in any time of need and I value their impact in my life. I respect them as friends and as family. Our differences make us special and I believe that makes our bond tighter. Relationships are important because they help us develop. Everyone needs somebody that helps them grow mentally and emotionally.
One group of people that are special to me are my cousins. There are only five of us girls. We depend on each other in different ways and I admire us for the young ladies we have grown up to be. Below you see 2 teachers, a police officer, an officer in the army and a soon to be nurse.
I have to admit I have several acquaintances but few that I call true blue friends. One of my most fondest friends is, Earl Kights. Our friendship grew out of him helping me to cope with the death of my mother. I have the up most respect for him. He has been involved with every stage of my life. He lets me make my mistakes but then he offers his wisdom to help me get back on track. Earl is a father figure, mentor,and a best friend. At this time he is guiding me through the process of buying my first house.
Next, would be my friendship with Sister Lewis. She calls me her little sister. Our friendship developed from us working together in 1998. I think what makes us close is that we are the total opposite. She practices the Apostolic religion. Even though her religion is strict she is still down to earth. She let's me be me. We talk daily about anything and everything. We respect our differences. There is a lot that I do not understand or agree with her religion but we are able to talk about a wide range of subjects and respect each other opinions.
I have had several people that at one time I had considered them to be close friends but because of certain circumstances I realized that their friendship was not true. Someone once told me, "Do not make people a priority that think of you as an option". Unfortunately, I have had that happen to me several times where I been in these people life for years and had supported them in their journey but when I need them to be their for me they were nonexistence or nonchalant about my situation and/or feelings. These are people that I categorized as acquaintances. The challenges that I have faced in current and past relationships are people expectations. Usually it is people's expectations of what I should be doing for them.
I believe what helps me have a good relationship with my parents is that I respect them. Majority of my parents are young under 25 years old. Many have little or no education. No matter what their circumstances are I treat them with respect. I understand the situations that they maybe experiencing because I have been in their shoes and could have been like them. The only difference is that I made different choices.
I have had several people that at one time I had considered them to be close friends but because of certain circumstances I realized that their friendship was not true. Someone once told me, "Do not make people a priority that think of you as an option". Unfortunately, I have had that happen to me several times where I been in these people life for years and had supported them in their journey but when I need them to be their for me they were nonexistence or nonchalant about my situation and/or feelings. These are people that I categorized as acquaintances. The challenges that I have faced in current and past relationships are people expectations. Usually it is people's expectations of what I should be doing for them.
I believe what helps me have a good relationship with my parents is that I respect them. Majority of my parents are young under 25 years old. Many have little or no education. No matter what their circumstances are I treat them with respect. I understand the situations that they maybe experiencing because I have been in their shoes and could have been like them. The only difference is that I made different choices.
I found it very interesting to see that you have two teachers in your family. This is something that I have in common with you. My family has several teachers also. I know that the teachers in my family have been a big support system for me, because they understand how much work it takes to be a teacher. I agree that teachers need to respect others. It plays a big role in our daily lives.
ReplyDeleteIt's sad, but you can't have any expectations from other people. My grandmother always told me to do for other people because you want to, not because you want it done for you in return. If you wait for your actions to be reciprocated, you may be waiting forever. You seem like a good-hearted person, so good things will happen in your life because of the way you treat others.
ReplyDeleteTarshia,
ReplyDeleteThrough expressing the relationships you have it seems that you have experienced a lot, overcome a lot, and use your experiences to help others. That is truly important.
As you said and others who commented mentioned too, unfortunately we can become defeated when we have too many expectations from others. I believe this is a lesson I am still learning.